Cannot Project/Lucid Dream for the life of me

Hi,

I found out about lucid dreaming several years ago when my friend told me some experiences of his and i was hooked immediately.

Always tried on-and-off since then, mostly to lucid dream at least. I've only ever done it twice and they weren't on purpose. And the second time I did I woke up seconds after realizing I finally did it!!

How can I help prevent my conscious awareness of this dream-state from ruining my experience? I thought the whole point was to remain aware through the different phases of wakefulness and whatever follows...

Now regarding projection, I have been getting to just before the "exit phase" but I can't seem to get it right. I've had one incredible experience before where I was traveling through the universe but I can't tell if it was a projection or not. So two questions: 1.) Would someone mind sharing their experience with lifting out of the body? 2.) Is it possible to project without a premeditated willingness to do so? (ie can certain memories about my dreams have been in the astral realm?)

Let me know if anyone can help me out!